Video: Explaining Consent – It’s As Simple As Making A Cup Of Tea

Blue Seat Studios have created a nifty short video explaining consent.

The twist? It’s done by comparing sex to making a cup of tea.

It sounds odd, but it works!

This video contains no swear words and is suitable to be watched by children for sex and consent education purposes.

Transcript

If you’re still struggling with consent, just imagine that instead of initiating sex, you’re making them a cup of tea.

You say, “Hey, would you like a cup of tea?” And they go, “Oh my God, I would love a cup of tea, thank you!” Then you know they want a cup of tea.

If you say, “Hey, would you like a cup of tea?” And they’re like, “Hmm, I’m not really sure…” Then you could make them a cup of tea, or not, but be aware they might not drink it. And if they don’t drink it, then (and this is the important part) don’t make them drink it. Just because you made it, doesn’t mean that you are entitled to watch them drink it.

And if they say, “No, thank you,” then don’t make them tea. At all. Just don’t make them tea. Don’t make them drink tea. Don’t get annoyed at them for not wanting tea. They just don’t want tea, OK?

They might say, “Yes, please, that’s kind of you.” And then when the tea arrives, they actually don’t want the tea at all. Sure, that’s kind of annoying as you’ve gone to all the effort of making the tea, but they remain under no obligation to drink the tea. They did want tea, now they don’t. Some people change their mind in the time it takes to boil the kettle, brew the tea and add the milk, and it’s OK for people to change their mind. And you are still not entitled to watch them drink it.

And if they’re unconscious, don’t make them tea. Unconscious people don’t want tea. And they can’t answer the question: “Do you want tea?” because they’re unconscious.

OK, so maybe they were conscious when you asked them if they wanted tea, and they said, “Yes!”, but in the time it took you to boil the kettle, brew the tea and add the milk, they’re now unconscious. You should just put the tea down, make sure the unconscious person is safe, and this is the important part again don’t make them drink the tea. They said “yes” then, sure, but unconscious people don’t want tea.

If someone said “yes” to tea, started drinking it, and then passed out before they’d finished it, don’t keep on pouring it down their throat. Take the tea away, make sure they’re safe, because unconscious people don’t want tea, trust me on this.

If someone said “yes” to tea around your house last Saturday, that doesn’t mean they want you to make them tea all the time. They don’t want you to come around to their place unexpectedly and make them tea and force them to drink it saying, “But you wanted tea last week!” Or to wake up to find you pouring tea down their throat saying, “But you wanted tea last night!”

If you can understand how completely ludicrous it is to force people to have tea when they don’t want tea, and you’re able to understand when people don’t want tea, then how hard is it to understand it when it comes to sex?

Whether it’s tea or sex, consent is everything.

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